This year I had the absolute pleasure of attending and speaking at the Washington DC EndoMarch. As an advocate it is always so refreshing and inspiring to be around other patients who have traveled from near and far to get their voices heard. Barbara Page from EndoMarch and Mariela Guzman from Latina Endo did an great job organizing the event and to them I am grateful. I also got to hang out with Team Florida. Amazing ladies!
I also got to hang out with the incredible Dr. Jhumka Gupta! Have you read her amazing speech on Huff post yet?
For those of you that couldn't be there in person, here is a chance to read the speech I wrote for the event.
EndoMarch 2016 Speech
Endometriosis patients, I see you.
I see all of the incredible things that you do every single
day.
I see you take care of family members, friends and doing
things to improve your community even though you are so fatigued and in so much
pain.
I see what you battle every day.
I see how you were up all night in pain. I see your swollen
abdomen. I see your fatigue. I see how you not only fight your disease, but
also fight with doctors, hospitals, insurance companies and pharmacies to get
treatment for your disease.
I see how brave you are.
I see you looking up doctors in different states, traveling
to get your best shot at care. I see you as you say goodbye to your loved ones
and walk into the operating room, not knowing how long or how extensive your
surgery will be. I see you taking chance on a surgery you could only hope will
help you better without any guarantee.
I see how resilient you are.
I see how you have had failed surgeries with terrible
surgeons and yet you keep pushing for better care. I see how you have been told
by so many people that your pain is not real. Yet, you keep pushing back,
saying, “My pain IS real and I DO NOT deserve this!” I see you!
As a mental health provider for endometriosis patients, I
get the honor and privilege to travel along with patients during their
difficult journey. As a patient myself, with severe endometriosis, I understand
the devastation, the loss, the grief and the trauma patients feel. Patients
come to me saying, “I don’t understand, I feel so hopeless. I feel so anxious.
I feel so depressed.”
Anxiety and depression is a common battle for endometriosis
patients. No wonder why? Not only do we deal with the ramifications of the
disease itself, but patients are told FOR YEARS that nothing is wrong with
them, while being in horrific pain. Patients go from doctor to doctor getting
diagnosed with things like IBS or stress getting written off time and time
again. Patients’ fertility is compromised and they sometimes suffer recurrent
pregnancy loss, go for YEARS of unsuccessful fertility treatments only many
years later to find out that endometriosis was at the root of their issues.
Society doesn’t recognize the profound implications of
endometriosis, leading patients to feel misunderstood and isolated at best and
at worst, judged and dismissed by those around them who feel they are
hypochondriacs.
Hypochondriac is defined as having an obsession with the
idea of having a SERIOUS but UNDIAGNOSED medical condition.
Endometriosis patients have a SERIOUS medical condition that
is often UNDIAGNOSED.
BIG DIFFERENCE!
Who is truly unstable? Is it endometriosis patients OR the
people who tell endometriosis patients for years that they are perfectly
healthy, their pain is normal and it is all in their head?
We have the term hypochondriac, but we do NOT have a term
yet for those people who constantly dismiss suffering patients time and time
again.
Endometriosis patients, we are not weak. We are some of the
strongest people I know. We do not have a low pain tolerance. We do incredible
things while in horrific pain. We are not attention cravers or drug seekers.
What we crave is understanding and acceptance from those around us and what we
truly seek is affordable care, educated doctors, better treatment options and a
cure. The problems we have are not in our head, but throughout our pelvis,
causing incredible pain and inflammation. We have a real disease that deserves
respect and attention. We are weary and we are tired, but we will not stop
advocating until our voices are heard.
It was amazing seeing all of the incredible things happening this March for Endometriosis Awareness Month! Hope to see you at some of the events next year!
It was amazing seeing all of the incredible things happening this March for Endometriosis Awareness Month! Hope to see you at some of the events next year!